Thank God I was so intrigued with this book--mostly because I'm unmarried, but I have heard the rumors of married people with kids never having sex, and that just floors me. It was about intimacy and commitment, connection and marriage. I hope I can apply some of her principles to my marriage. This just wasn't what I was expecting. It would have been so interesting to hear more about these types of real interactions between the two of them - instead she continually glosses over them and moves forward with long winded tales from her privileged life.
Charla decided that the couple would emabrk on a year of scheduled sex -- falling over toy trucks and piles of laundry in an effort to make time for each other. Does good sex even mediocre sex make up for things that aren't so good? Will sex every day strengthen a marriage, or reveal the cracks? The lack of intimacy wasn? Charla insists that she has no more business counseling someone on their marriage than her mailman. While she claims to be a professing Christian, you won't find a lot of biblical content in this book. Or, maybe she was just trying to fill pages. As other reviewers have pointed out, sex and intimacy are not I found this book while browsing in the library and was intrigued.
When Brad turned 40, Charla decided to give a unique gift for him. Certainly a year is a long time. The ways in which my husband treated me in this state, with such unconditional support and gentle guidance, were awesome. Pull a couple together or drive them apart? Whichever it is, I thank her for her inspiring journey. Muller is a I was so intrigued with this book--mostly because I'm unmarried, but I have heard the rumors of married people with kids never having sex, and that just floors me. Once we committed to the theory of this arrangement, Brad went back to his Wall Street Journal, and I went to unload the dishwasher.
And please, phone sex does not appeal to me at all, nor is it in the spirit of The Gift. The author Charla Muller explains in detail how she had planned for a unique birthday gift, its initial denial from her husband, how she remained adamant with her gift and its positive outcomes. I'm a guy and the only reason I picked this book up at the local book exchange was even at my most virile I don't ever think I would be up for it every night. Summary For an entire year. There were obstacles along the way work implosions, faking it and questions came to light. Pull a couple together or drive them apart? About the Author: Charla Muller has worked for eighteen years as a publicist and special events planner. The year our daughter was born, I think my husband could count on his fingers and toes or perhaps just his fingers the number of times we even had sex at all.
Instead I found myself getting annoyed at the writer especially her apparent inability to use the word 'sex'. I was disappointed that the author did not convey or gain a more empowered viewpoint on her own sexuality. The couple would embark on a year of scheduled sex, falling over Tonka trucks and piles of laundry in an effort to make time for each other. When she stayed on topic, I thought it was interesting and liked the book. None of which I am employing in the bedroom, by the way.
Charla admits that even they were not a hyper intimate couple even before or after the practice of 365 days. Perhaps if I had known a bit more about the book before I read it my fault , I would have enjoyed it more and not been waiting for a super sexy 'grand reveal. Had it been called anything else, I'd of never read it, and I'm actually quite upset that I wasted my time on it. This book was total con and very hard to keep reading and I only finished it as I am such miserly bastard I needed to get my moneys worth out of the nominal price I paid for it. At the end of the year, Charla's conclusions and changes are heartfelt and real. It was amazing to her what she thought was just a gift for her husband, ending up being a gift for their relationship. The Mullers had a solid marriage and two wonderful children, but over the years sex had fallen low on their to-do list.
The author could have delved much, much deeper to make for a more compelling read. Big Idea Girl attended a giant public university, Steady Eddie a small private liberal arts college. Her use of the word 'imtimacy'made me think of silly 'tweenagers' giggling behind their hands at anything related to sex. This was an attitude I was grateful for, but we both knew he was kidding himself. I was interested to see how husband Chad held out but there was no real mention of this or for that matter any other intimate details.
The book is weird, not even really about their relationship but about her childhood, neighbors, etc. I mean, throw me a bone and hint at role playing or something. I finished it out of horrified fascination. The author pops in and out hilighting specific instances that transformed not only her sex life but her entire family's lives. So the premise got me.
When hope runs out, sometimes fate sends a hero. But Muller's a decent writer with an intriguing perspective. I think it was necessary to draw the reader in and help us feel connected to her throughout the book. I found her really appealing and her voice and situation relatable. The basic stuff that women talk about on a girls' night out -- except for the sex part! Book Description Penguin Putnam Inc, United States, 2008.